I wanted to share what the Artist and I got each other for our 3rd wedding anniversary. I posted previously about our story together and photos of our wedding. We like to fully enjoy and be present 100% for special occasions, so sometimes we do our own private celebrations before or after the actual day. For example, this past Valentine’s Day, we had our own celebration about 2 weeks after the actual day because that was a better time for us. That way, we could be committed 100% to that moment. We were able to spend an entire day and evening together, rather just a little while before the Artist had class or something, and it was also during a window of slower schedules, so our minds were completely focused on being together. So for our anniversary, we exchanged gifts and celebrated in stages. In total, we had a nice dinner, exchanged home cards (we do home made cards for every occasion :D), small gifts, movie, baked goods, and time together to share nice words.
For the Artist, I was a little stuck. It can be hard to think of things that are low in price but still just as thoughtful as the things we always talk about doing or getting one day. I thought that he would really enjoy something hand sewn by me with our new sewing machine, but didn’t think I would be able to measure him, pick out fabric, and make it without him knowing. So I thought I would fashion a gift card, so he can choose the item and the fabric etc. Then I thought, why just one? So I made a booklet of “Emily Coupons”! This may look lame, but it was very special. The coupons included things like making any dinner of his choice- including dessert, any movie of his choice- he often likes really long movies or ones that I don’t have much desire to see, sewing canvas for him, and of course, sewing him any item of clothing he wants.
I also baked a new recipe for maple cookies, because the Artist loves them, but they didn’t turn out. I think the best way to go for maple cookies is the kind in a box from the store.
I also made one of his classic favourites, a pecan pie. The ultimate goal is to beat the kind from Swiss Chalet, it is the ideal pecan pie. Mine is pretty good too, and since I have the stuff, he is ready for a second one 😉
And…..he got me a jewellery box! Or at least that is how I use it, haha. I had been saying that my little wooden cigar box was not holding everything- all my stuff was tangled and I couldn’t close the lid or get anything out because it was all messed up. So when I opened this, I was so excited to organize my accessories into it. And the style and colours of it are so thoughtful, they are very “me”.
Here it is empty:
Here it is full:
And here is my old wooden cigar box, that I now use to hold just my pins:
I love the red velvet interior, and the old, faded gold paint. He got it at a second hand, antiquey type store, which is my kind of store 😉 He has even picked out some of the accessories in the past here or has given them to me as gifts. Some are second hand, some are new, and they are all “fake” and cheap haha! But I love them.
His gifts, even if they were acquired for free or home made, never fail to become a treasure. He is so thoughtful and creative.
Sometimes we decide to do a gift exchange and we have to get the gift at the dollar store. Or it has to be homemade. And boy, the things we can come up with! The very best, most ,creative, rarest thing I got for him was for Christmas 2011. It was a Julian Schnabel book. He had been yearning hard for it, and for a long, long time. But it is rare, hard to find, and only a certain, quite low number, of copies exist in the world. And it is out of print. Most copies cost hundreds of dollars and are used and beat up, missing pages, the cover is gone, or the spine is detached. And they still cost a fortune. I popped into this unique bookstore in Toronto on Queen St. and I couldn’t believe what I saw before me- this book. And it was in perfect, like-new condition, contained all pages, was beautiful and shiny, and even smelled new still. And, above all else, was crazy cheap. So I bought it and lugged the huge thing home on foot. It was only September, so I had to hide it until Christmas. I had to tell someone my secret, so I called my mom right away to tell her! The Artist was still searching on his own for it, so I had to do a little detective work and creative subject changing. Whenever he saw it for a good deal, which was nothing compared to my deal, he wanted to buy it. So I was dodging this left, right, and centre! But usually, the Artist has a sixth sense, and whenever a gift giving occasion happens, he tries to, or actually does, buy what I got him for himself. And then I discover it and have to tell him why he has to return it lol! So this Schnabel book was the first time I kept him away with great undercover skills and he had no idea what it was. The look on his face was priceless, and even more priceless when he found out how cheap it was!
That is all.
This has been a nice reflection, and has helped to soothe me ❤
It has been quite a day. Hot. Humid. Sticky. Stressing over health issues. House is a mess because it is too hot to clean. I need to workout but I don’t have a lock to lock up my new-to-me bike. I want to indulge in some quiet, laying around time, to get over the stress of my most recent call from the doctor’s office instead. I need a shower. We need to budget (this is an every day thing, but when other things add up, it seems treacherous).
Right now, I think I will indulge in a nice shower and pampering of sorts with my good smelling lotions and soaps, then curl up with an old movie, maybe a cartoon, and do nothing. I tend to be a worrier, and I know that if indulge in this quiet, me-time to process things, I will feel better tomorrow. If I don’t, the feelings will linger and disrupt several days instead of just one. So I find zapping it right away is best, if the day permits it. And today, it is permitting. Cleaning can wait. My mental health comes first 😉
And when the Artist gets home, he always knows exactly what to do to help me feel better. Another one of his sixth senses.
The neurons in your brain take the path of easiest travel, which are the connections used most often. They are the strongest. So even in stressful times, positive thinking and positive self-talk can make a difference by strengthening those neurons to be the ones most travelled. So here’s to thinking about the good; I have a great and loving family who support me no matter what. I have a wonderful, husband, so wonderful there are no words to describe it. I am living in St. Louis in a very eclectic apartment, which is very “Emily and her Artist”. I may not have much money in the bank, but I am so rich with love ❤